I love helping people find a place to call home. I also enjoy looking at how people live and how they decorate. So it was only fitting for me to become a real estate agent.
Besides marriage, buying a home is noted as being just as stressful. It’s so important that during the process, you remain confident and open minded as things can become overwhelming really fast. A good support system, a skilled licensed real estate agent and a competent mortgage broker are recommended.
I’ve been selling real estate for 27 years. I’ve seen the ups, downs and the come arounds. I’ve worked with the rich, the poor, the borderline and the middle of the line. No matter what influence, all share some of the same traits.
Buying a house is a personal thing. For some it’s a life long dream. For others it’s a status symbol. But for all, having a place to stay and call home is a necessity. Home is where the heart is and it’s where memories are created and shared.
Over the years, I’ve seen the following people kill more dreams and influence potential homebuyers in many ways. Some so bad that the person decided against ever buying a home. Before you buy your first home or another, let’s discuss these type of people.
1. Someone who has never owned a home. This person will have all kinds of advice and for the most part, it ain’t right. I’m one of those people that if you’ve never done something, how can you teach me how to do it. This non homeowner will have you second guessing your decision and possibly having you fearful of taking that next step. A non homeowner will tell you owning a home ain’t all that. Ummmm yooooohooo.. have you ever gotten a tax deduction from renting? Ok.. next!
2. A broke person. Now these people are the absolute worst. A broke person has a broke mindset and they too love to give advice. This advice seems logical to them because it probably didn’t work for them. A broke person will tell you can’t afford it and your taste is too expensive. Do they know how much you make? Now I will be the first to tell my clients, don’t be house rich and poor. But also believe in if you are buying the house, make certain it’s something you will like and want to live in for years to come. Besides, a lender will preapprove you prior to looking if you are seeking a mortgage. Therefore you will know in advance what you can and can not afford. So tell the broke person to stay in their place.
Last, BUT not least..
3. Negative Nancy and Terrible Tom. These two people are a match made in heaven. Nothing positive comes out of their mouth while house hunting. Everything you like, they dislike. From the neighborhood, to the stop sign. Everything ain’t right for them. You like hardwood floors, they like carpet. You like a yard, they prefer no yard. You like a full bath, they say “you don’t need all that.” Bottom line.. leave them at home! Who’s buying the house and who’s paying the mortgage? That’s all that matters. Negative Nancy and Terrible Tom don’t deserve to be in your circle at this time.
I’ve personally found when clients take a positive, informative person when house hunting, especially if they are first time homebuyers, they are more inclined to find a house they love sooner vs later.
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I hope these tips have shed some light on why it’s important to have the right people around you when buying a house or any big investment or commitment.
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Until next time, peace, blessings and happy house hunting,
Not sure you would like to take us house hunting! Not enough $ for the Seattle market and we are picky!
It’s ok to be picky when you are by yourself. Picky buyers can be sold too. I love Seattle and it is expensive there..
I wouldn’t take these type of people with me clothes shopping, let alone buying a house. Misery loves company, that’s why I do a lot of things on my own anyway. Great read!
Lol! Right. No big decisions at all. They stay at home. Right! Misery is always seeking company.
I wouldn’t dare take these people anywhere. I am very detailed in what I want so the only reason I’d bring someone is for safety reasons or someone who knows about someone selling a fixer upper that’s a lost cause at the same rate of a more refined home.
Safety is always key in our business. We never advise to go alone.
The only one that I have done is another non-homeowner. But that’s because my husband and I were both first-time owners when we were looking. But if it wasn’t someone I was purchasing the house with, I agree, these people would not be great influences when looking at homes.
Trusted, optimistic sources are best. Homebuying can be stressful.
These are great tips!! Perfect for someone who’s a first time home buyer!
Yes.. first time or anytime for sure.
That is great advice! We’ll be buying land in a few years and I plan to only take my husband!
Yes.. trusted and positive sources.
Misery loves company and when people see you leveling up, they don’t want you to. I would only take genuine people that have been through the process before with me.
I went house shopping with a negative Nancy. It was the worst! I didn’t invite her to my housewarming party. Lol.
Oh goodness. I can only imagine. Lol! Right.. no party for her.
Agree to all of this! We just did house hunting this spring and it was A LOT!
Yes.. it can be very tiring and stressful. That’s why a good support system is key.
I never thought about whom to include in house hunting and realize now that there were some people around who made it difficult.
Oh yes.. glad it worked out.
My oldest son is a real estate agent, or he’s trying to be. He’s finding it so hard to make ends meet that he re-took his full-time job for stability, and that doesn’t leave him enough time to invest in his passion, which is real estate. He did bite the bullet and quit the job, pouring life and soul into the work, but almost lost his condo…so back to 40+ hours he goes. Kudos to you for finding the way!
Thank you for sharing this story. Tell your son it gets harder and never gets easier. But the business of real estate is so worth it. He may have to do what he has to do for a while before he can do what he wants to do. But never give up. ?
It is good advice. He does have that drive, and I do think he’ll be very successful. I appreciate your insight. ?
Haha this made me laugh for sure. I could not agree with you more…been there and done that so this is great advice x
Thank you! It’s funny but so true. When you know better, you do better ?
The team of house hunting should be picked with particular care. I absolutely agree. Your expert advise makes it clear how one should come to this process.
So true. Very particular care and planning. Thank you!